Character Building for Families, Volume 2

By Lee Ann Rubsam

Religion & spirituality, Education & teaching, General non-fiction


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I. Introduction
A. “What do you think it means to be teachable?”
B. DEFINITION: “To be teachable means to realize that I am not perfect, and that I can improve by learning from others. Being teachable means I have a willingness to learn and change.”
C. “Being teachable is never easy for any of us. For some of us it is much harder than for others. Teachableness is a character quality for which we must work hard and pray earnestly, if it is to bear fruit in our lives.”
D. “Why do you think teachableness is such a problem for us?” (pride)
E. “Our natural, sinful nature desires to be proud. It does not want to admit we could be wrong. Pride is the opposite of teachableness.”
F. “Let’s see what God’s Word has to say about being proud.”
II. Read Proverbs 6:16,17.
A. “What is an abomination?” (something grossly disgusting and repulsive)
B. “Verse 16 says there are seven things that God hates very much, that are abominations to Him. What is the first on the list?” (a proud look)
C. “God finds a proud look, and attitude, to be very offensive and disgusting. A person doesn’t run around with a proud look on his face if he has a teachable spirit. Proud looks start with proud hearts.”
D. Read through the other six things God hates, in Proverbs 6:16-19.
E. “Why do you think God hates pride so much?” (It is the opposite of His own nature; it is rebellion against Him; it does not allow Him to teach us.)
F. “Who was the first one to be proud?” (the devil – Isaiah 14:12-15. Read, if you have time.)
G. “You can see why we should want to be teachable, rather than being proud!”
III. Review teachableness definition.
IV. Ask God to cleanse our hearts of pride and make us teachable.


I. Review
A. “Tell me what we learned yesterday about teachableness.”
B. “Is it easy for us to be teachable?” (no)
C. “What is the opposite of teachableness?” (pride)
D. “What did we discover about pride?” (Review Day 1, part II.)
E. Review teachableness definition.

II. “You will need to pray much on your own for a teachable heart. Every time you catch yourself being unteachable, or your parents point this out to you, be ready to repent and ask God to help you change.”
A. “Don’t try to resist and deny, when the sin of unteachableness is brought to your attention.”
B. “And don’t be overly discouraged when you fail.”
C. “Becoming teachable is a lifelong process.”
D. “Mom and Dad are still in the process, too. Sometimes we aren’t as teachable as we should be, either.”
E. “When we fail, we should repent quickly, and then continue on with life.”
III. Humility
A. “The Bible has much to say about being teachable, and many times it uses a synonym for teachableness. Can you think of what it might be?” (the opposite of pride – being humble)
B. “Humbleness, or humility, is part of meekness, which is one of the fruit of the Spirit mentioned in Galatians 5:22,23.” (Review these verses.)
C. “We need to be humble before other people, especially those in authority over us. This would mean, first of all, your parents. But before we can be humble toward people, we must determine to humble our hearts before God. If we are humble before God, we will be humble before other people.”
IV. Read James 4:6-10.
A. “Verse 6 is a reference to Proverbs 3:34. Both Peter and James use this verse to teach us about being humble. We’ll be reading what Peter has to say later on.”
B. “What do you think verse 6 means?” (God is against the proud – will not help them – but He helps the humble.)
C. “What is involved in being humble before God?”
1. Submitting to Him (v. 7) – doing things God’s way, having an attitude of obedience toward Him
2. Drawing near to Him (v. 8) – realizing that we need His help, and asking Him for it; loving Him
3. Repentance (vs. 8,9) – a very important part of being humble before God. Humility is not present without repentance.
D. “What benefits does God give those who humble their hearts before Him?”
1. He gives grace, or supernatural help. (v. 6)
2. We have the authority in God to resist the devil and insist he flee from us. (v. 7 – The prerequisite is submission of ourselves to God.)
3. His promise to draw near to us when we draw near to Him (v. 8)
4. He will lift us up – promote us, vindicate us, make our good character to shine before all. (v. 10)
E. Memorize James 4:6,7 and 10.

V. “Heavenly Father, help us to have humble hearts before You. Teach us to submit ourselves to You, so that we might receive the precious help You long to give us.”


I. Memorize James 4:6,7 and 10.
II. Review teachableness definition and main ideas from Day 2 lesson.
III. Read I Peter 5:1-7.
A. “Verses 1-4 are written to a particular group of people. Who are they?” (church elders – the leaders)
B. “Church elders, or leaders, are those in authority over the church. Several of their responsibilities are mentioned, and we are reading these because your parents have the same responsibilities toward you. Parents are accountable to God for helping their children grow in the Lord, just as elders are responsible for helping the church grow in Christ.”
1. Feed the flock of God (v. 2) – “Parents are responsible to make sure their children are fed the Word of God – by reading it to them, explaining it, and bringing it to their attention in situations where it applies.”
2. Willingly … of a ready mind (v. 2) – “Parents are to be eager to do this, not for any personal gain, but unselfishly.”
3. Neither as being lords … but being ensamples (v. 3) – “Parents are to teach their children in a loving manner, not acting in a master-to-slave attitude toward them. Parents are to provide good examples of how to live for Jesus in their own actions and words.”
C. “What will be the result for church elders – and parents – who fulfill these responsibilities properly?” (v. 4 – a crown of glory that endures)
D. “Do you think it is easy for parents to fulfill these responsibilities toward their children?”
E. “It takes constant diligence and patience for parents to do the job of teaching their children right. Parents need God’s help with this. It would be a whole lot easier not to bother training up children in God’s ways, but we love you too much to do that. Sometimes your parents mess up and don’t do our teaching in a loving manner. Parents aren’t perfect. When this happens we need to humble ourselves and ask your forgiveness and God’s.”
F. “Are there any hurts you have on your mind right now – any ways Mom or Dad haven’t treated you right, that need to be forgiven?” (Discuss with children, and ask forgiveness for specific parenting failures. Don’t let this become an argument session.)
G. “Mom and Dad would really appreciate you praying for us that we could be good parents to you.”

IV. Pray that Mom and Dad would be faithful and loving in teaching the family.


I. Memorize James 4:6,7 and 10.
II. Review definition of teachableness.
III. Read I Peter 5:1-7.
A. “What did we talk about from these verses yesterday?” (Review lesson.)
B. “What does verse 5 teach us?”
1. Younger ones submit to elders – “God instructs those who are younger to be obedient to, and respectful of, their elders. This especially applies to children’s relationships with their parents. Older people are to be treated with honor because of their wisdom and experience gained through the years. Your parents, Sunday School teachers, grandparents, and pastors do know more than you do. Respect and listen to them. Learn from them.
“Of course, if older relatives are not Christians closely in touch with God, much of what they say or do may not be in line with God’s Word, and should not be learned from them. We need to be discerning. We are mainly thinking of learning from older Christians. However, you must still show respect to non-Christian elders.”
2. All should be subject one to another – “Remember when we studied deference – honoring others, putting others first, not insisting on our own way? That is what we are talking about in this section of verse 5.” (For DEFERENCE unit, see Vol. 1.)
3. Being clothed with humility – “This means that being humble should be a way of life for us. It is an attitude we should constantly have, which will be evident to others – just like what kind of clothes we are wearing.”
4. “Where have we seen the last phrase of verse 5 before?” (James 4:6)
5. “How do you know this is an important concept to God?” (When God says something more than once in His Word, He wants us to take special notice.)
C. “What does verse 6 tell us we are to do?” (humble ourselves before God)
D. “What will this involve?” (repentance, submission, obedience)
E. “What will happen if we humble ourselves before God?” (He will exalt us at the right time.)
F. “Where else did we read this?” (James 4:10)
G. “If we humble our hearts before God, what promise is given us in verse 7?” (God will take care of the things that we are concerned about, because He cares about us.)

H. “Trusting God and giving our cares to Him is part of humbling our hearts before Him. If we are anxious, we are not releasing our lives into God’s hands. We are not submitting to Him.”
I. Memorize I Peter 5:5-7.
IV. Pray that we would be humble before God, entrusting our problems to Him.



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