When Everyone Shines But You (The Shine Series, Book 1)

By Kelly Martin

Personal growth, Health & well-being, General non-fiction, Psychology & philosophy

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Chapter 1

~ Surrender and Letting Go ~

The outer world, society, has led you to believe that for your life to work you need to take control. It has led you to believe that you need to 'will it' into the shape or form you desire. This is simply not true.

There is nothing you need to do perfectly in this world. Yet your desire to get things right, to be right, can prevent you from moving forward at all. As you live your human life there may be a desire to control your life circumstances, to take the reins and exert force or will on an unwanted life experience. This is not only counter-productive, but can make you miss what is naturally unfolding in your life.

You mould your world as you allow it to unravel and unfold, moment by moment, day by day.

This is not a lazy way; this is not a 'sitting on your ass doing nothing' way; this is the natural way that life brings you exactly what you need as and when you need it.

The trees in the autumn do not scream to let their leaves go; they simply change into trees without leaves, and as summer arrives they are then trees with leaves and buds. No attachment to outcome, no attachment to anything. They simply 'are' - in that space between thoughts, between words, that space that is always transforming, always changing – never the same.

The human need for perfection is the mind's need to control what it sees and experiences. The mind needs to grab onto something to feel of value, yet the real value of living comes in the flow of the river, the clouds floating across the sky, the baby being born, the human dying, the air you breathe. All of nature mirrors true perfection. Not 'willing' or 'controlling' perfection. There is no desire in nature to be perfect. It simply is, by embracing the one constant in life – change.

As humans you often find it difficult to trust, to have faith in what seems to be an invisible unknown, an uncertain future. Yet life gave you the greatest teacher – the nature surrounding you which can teach you far more than your scholars or books will ever do. Nature is the effortless teacher, which humanity needs more than ever to hear and listen to now.

In the midst of your stress, or when thoughts are causing you to struggle within, you may feel a rushing, desperate feeling inside you, the desire to do something, anything, to make this feeling change.

You may look outside and see your life falling apart, a loved one may leave you, your finances may collapse, your friendships may disappear; you may feel all alone. Your first response is to take action to try to fix whatever it is that needs to change for things to be alright with you and your world. This rarely works. For in the exerting of your will and the trying to fix the very problem you perceive, it merely grows stronger and bigger. You fight against what you already know to be true, but your human mind wants to stop it from being true.

The gift you can give yourself is to stop in that moment; stop what you are doing right now. Where are you in this moment? Fearing the future? Trying to control what is? But 'What is' – is! You cannot control your outer world any more than a tree can stop a bolt of lightning striking it down to its core. You cannot stop babies being born if it's their time to be born, nor can you stop people from dying if it's their time to leave planet Earth. They are all part of this transforming universe, all part of this changing flow called life.

For many of you there is this illusion that you can change the outer world, that if you just do x, y or z, the outcome will be different. But different from what?

If change is coming, change comes. If things are to remain the same, they remain the same, for now. No amount of effort or control can make any difference here.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is surrender - surrender to 'what is'.

Some great teachers are coming forward now, to bring this message to you, and yet so many people are still struggling against this. I understand.

You are conditioned to believe that if you let go, if you surrender, you will either be a victim of circumstances and not assertive in your own being, or you will be viewed as being lazy, lacking in willpower, and un-motivated.

Yet will and power cannot exist alongside one another. Motivation does not come into question when you surrender fully into the present moment. Motivation to do, to take action, to make moves, comes naturally from this surrender.

Surrender does not mean sitting on a meditation cushion all day trying to be a higher being. It comes from your evolving nature of being - your nature. You are nature. The trees, the grass, the flowers, the sky, and the grand mountains, they are not here by chance. They are not here to simply act as beautiful art in your life's landscape. No, they are your biggest wakeup call if you can only just look, listen and take them all in.

It's not always easy as a human to walk a different path in life. Especially when the world surrounds you with doers, motivators, assertive individuals, all full of action and desire, wanting to tell you to get off your ass and do something amazing!

But what if you are amazing as you are, right now, reading this, listening to music, observing that tree or cloud over there, wondering if there is more to life than this endless desire for human perfection?

And to step away from the crowd, to be a sheep no more, to walk your own path, to not look to see who is in front of you or who is behind you, to make decisions moment by moment on what is right for you - this is perfection - this is true perfection.

Learn to dance in this space. If you look ahead to where all others are striding forward, wanting to stampede through the next door, the next change, the next new thing, and then you look back and more are coming, more are wanting to get from 'a to b', you see the desire they want to manifest, and once they reach that door they see the next door.

But why not be one of those people, who instead of looking for the next door, lives in the moment, dances in that empty space, that space of now, that space that is not really empty, but full of possibility, full of life, full of living, full of divine perfection?

You know within you, that nature is your nature, that you have all you need in this moment.

It blossoms, you blossom. It changes, you change. Nothing is set in stone and no amount of efforting will cause your world to change.

You live in a competitive culture. Society encourages you to be better than everybody else. Instead of hunting and eating your competitors as the animal kingdom does, you taunt, tease and berate one another.

You claim that your efforts to do well and to be a success in the world are for your own wellbeing, but behind many of you there is this desire to prove yourself to others, to prove those people wrong who may have dismissed you, to feel better by comparing with someone who seems worse off than you, and to belittle and begrudge those who have what you really want. But it's not what you really want that you're experiencing in them, it's what you think you want and it's what you think they have, but you have no way of knowing that they have it.

What you really want is to know that you matter.



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